Affirmations are kind of a buzzword right now, and you might be wondering, “What’s the hype all about?!”
An affirmation is a simple, powerful statement that is meant to encourage and manifest a goal within yourself. Repeating these statements on a daily basis will train your subconscious mind to have deeper belief in the goals you are working to actualize.
Since implementing the practice of affirmations over the past few years, I have seen improvements in almost every area of my life: my emotional health, my spirituality, my family relationships, my business, just to name a few! I’m a big believer in the power of words.
Whether you have yet to start the use of affirmations, or if you’re a seasoned pro, I recommend three tips to boost their effectiveness:
- Things are the most productive when they are written down. Jot down your affirmations in a place where you can revisit them often. That could be a journal, a white board, your phone background, etc.
- They should be written in the present. Using future-tense wording like “I am going to” or “I will” doesn’t bring the dream to the current moment, which is what we’re aiming for. Instead of “I am going to be my best self at work today,” say, “I am my best self at work, and they are so fortunate to have me there.”
- They should be positively phrased. Leave out any negative words like “no, not, neither, nor”, and instead, phrase them in a positive way. For example, instead of, “I am not a bad parent”, say, “I am the wonderful parent that my child needs.”
When choosing your daily affirmations, sit quietly and think about what you want for your life:
What does it look and feel like when you are in the flow with effortless joy!
What does the happiest version of life look like for you?
What can you tell yourself to help you get closer to that ideal?
What are the words you need to hear the most everyday?
You are the person who should be answering these questions. And you are the person who should be cheering yourself on the most!
For a long time my biggest struggle was working-mom guilt. To combat these heavy feelings, I began with just saying, “I am a patient and present parent,” every morning, and when I needed a reminder throughout the day. Having that push of self-nurturing made a drastic difference for me. I felt more upbeat and able to prioritize quality time with each of my children, completely focused on them. My confidence as a parent is miles ahead of where it used to be, and it started with just a few simple words.
Here are some more examples of personal affirmations:
I have a purpose, and it’s fun to figure out what it is.
I am beautiful in my skin.
Breath in my lungs is a gift.
I have enough time for everything that needs to get done.
I love to work hard and challenge myself.
Affirmations have also been an incredible tool for my children. Our morning practice of repeating certain phrases arms them with conviction and invites them to create a positive day for themselves. One that we say often before school, as well as during times of conflict, is, “Rules keep me healthy, safe, and strong.” Ensuring that my kids understand that rules/restrictions are in place to benefit them has spurred a more peaceful atmosphere in our home.
These are some other great affirmations for kids:
I am kind.
I stand up for others.
I am loved.
I can do hard things.
I am a leader.
I am a good sibling/friend.
I would love to hear about your experiences with affirmations! I invite you to help your mind get in the right mode each day, because you deserve the life of your dreams.